Gaming has been a part of my life as well as my wife’s for as long as we can remember. However, it wasn’t until recently when my wife and I completed the game Snipperclips, that I realized just how important and vital that it is to our relationship. It may sound silly to some, but by playing games together we have been able to gain a perspective on our relationship that many do not have.
What makes gaming such a great hobby for couples is that you are forced to work together to solve problems. For example, in Snipperclips my wife and I were tasked with tackling some pretty brain teasing puzzles. In almost every level we came up with different solutions. This meant we had to hear each other out and take the best ideas from both solutions in order to overcome the obstacle at hand. We were forced to communicate and rely on one another in a way that was better than anything we could have accomplished on our own. In fact, in many cases I don’t think I could have figured it out on my own, but shhhh don’t tell her that.
In a relationship, couples will come across many obstacles as well. Whether it be financial situations or silly arguments, you are going to have to communicate on a deeper level and work together to overcome these hardships. This is why couples should put themselves in situations that test these skills, so they are better prepared for the storm around the corner. And what more fun way to do so than by picking up a controller and having an experience together. One that really forces them to communicate with words and actions rather than passively.
Story Driven Gaming
Snipperclips is not the only game that you should experience together as a couple. My wife and I have also played several of the Gears of War campaigns together. Games with story-driven cooperative campaigns allow us to not only work together, but have something to talk about and discuss as well. Many times when we were far away from the comfort of our living room sofa, we would still be discussing where we thought the story was heading next or which characters we related to more and why. Playing games has managed to keep our conversation fresh and interesting. Instead of letting conversation grow stale and uninspired, my wife and I often never run out of things to talk about and discuss.
As much fun as working together is, sometimes old-fashioned competition is good for letting your frustrations out on each other. Mario Kart and Bomberman have become great ways to settle an argument and often by the end of it we are trash talking, laughing, and having a good time. And it doesn’t matter what game it may be, maybe multiplayer shooters are more your style. The most important thing is that we share these experiences together and that we make time to show interest in our hobbies. Gaming is not what defines our marriage, but it has certainly helped strengthen it.